I want to be a mum…

Two of my friends gave birth this week to two beautiful baby girls, a third friend who is pregnant popped over last night too. I love my friends and they have been so encouraging and supportive of me and the husband during our journey, but today I feel sad.  When will it be my turn…

Inequality for self-employed adopters

Hi All I am really cross today as I have discovered that a self-employed person in the UK is not entitled to adoption allowance. The Facts: If a self-employed person was having their ‘own/birth’ child they would get maternity allowance an employed person would be entitled to adoption pay there is no allowance for self-employed person…

(Wo)Man Overboard…!

So after writing my super excited post this week, I have come home from the adoption training feeling overwhelmed and scared!  I am sure it is normal but I am really questioning whether we can do this. Its hard! We met some lovely people on the course and we joked that these training sessions are…

New Beginnings

Happy New Year! It has been with excitement and anticipation that I looked into this new year, a year full of possibilities and changes.  This time last year I was attending blood test after blood test to try to see if I was ovulating (many of the tests were inconclusive – the story of my…

Baby Steps to Adoption

Hi After a lot of soul searching we have decided that we want to try to adopt. This is not a decision we have reached lightly but feel it is the right thing for us.  We believe that we can provide a loving stable home to a child who is not able to live with…

This time last year…

It has been over a year since we first saw our fertility consultant.  I can’t believe that in the space of 12 months we went from worrying that we may have something ‘wrong’ with us, to now…. where there is nothing wrong.. except that we can’t conceive! I remember the first time sitting in the…

My first post …

It has taken me quite a while to actually sit down and type this. For months the idea of sharing my story has been drifting through my mind, but the fear of putting myself out there prevented me – you hear these horror stories of trolls etc.  But today I just feel like I have…